Our Mission Statement:
“ROBE seeks to educate, equip, and empower men to impact an increase in breastfeeding rates and a decrease in infant mortality rates within the African-American communities.”
Congratulations New Dad!
As you have experiences by now, fatherhood is a big job with plenty of rewards. Your main goal is to keep mom and baby happy and healthy. As you and your significant other adjust to your new roles as parents, communicate and listen to each other often for ways you can help.
Mom's Milk is Powerful
The benefits are endless
Emotional Assistance
Mom and baby feel calmer and happier
Immunity Boost
Baby is much healthier and is less often sick. Mom's milk has over 200 ingredients to sustain the health of your baby unlike formula
Low Health Risk
Baby has low risk of health problems, such as stomach problems and infections, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), diabetes, obesity, heart disease, and childhood leukemia
Higher IQ
Children poses higher IQs and do better in school
Fast Recovery
Mom recovers from delivery much faster and can burn up to 600 extra calories a day
Saves Money
Breastfeeding saves money. Formula can cost more than $1500 a year!
Low Risk of Breast Cancer
Mom is less likely to get breast and ovarian cancer, diabetes, and heart disease (the leading cause of death for women)
The longer mom breastfeeds, the better for mom and baby
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breastfeeding your baby for 1 year or longer, and feeding him only breastmilk for the first 6 months. Celebrate when you meet these goals.
BREASTFEEDING TAKES TEAMWORK. HERE'S HOW YOU CAN HELP
Moms whose partners support their breastfeeding efforts breastfeed longer. And they get more benefits from breastfeeding. Here are some ways you can be helpful:
During Pregnancy:
- Encourage mom to make a breastfeeding plan and set goals. Let her know that you’ll be there to help along the way.
- Plan for the delivery together. That means helping choose a doctor and hospital that support breastfeeding, going to doctor’s appointments, and going to prenatal classes.
- Tour hospitals or birthing facilities together and choose one that supports breastfeeding
- Start learning about normal baby behavior so you’ll be prepared when baby comes.
After Pregnancy
- Support skin-to-skin time for mom and baby during the Sacred Hour, the first hour after delivery. Even babies who are delivered by cesarean can do skin-to-skin in the first hour.
- Request rooming-in at the hospital so that you and mom have more time to get to know your baby and settle into a healthy routine.
- Get plenty of skin-to-skin time where you cuddle the baby on your bare chest. This is great bonding time with lots of benefits for both of you.
- Be on standby to get help for mom and baby as they get the hang of breastfeeding. That means asking a nurse or lactation consultant for help. Listen carefully so you can help mom remember the information later.
- Make sure mom and baby have private time to breastfeed and sleep. You may have to ask visitors to come another time, but that’s OK—you’re a dad now!
HELP OUT AT HOME
Prepare Yourself
Newborns eat at least 8 to 12 times a day and sleep only a few hours at a time. Learn what to expect from your baby and how you can adjust your schedule during the early months.
Have a Watchful Eye
Learn to spot early hunger cues and bring the baby to mom when you see them. It’s much easier for babies to latch on and feed before they get too hungry. This will also help her body to make all the milk your baby needs.
Encourage Her
Let mom know you’re proud of her. Breastfeeding can be hard. If she has problems, help her find some help, and remind her that it’s worth it!
Be Thoughtful
Small acts make you a big hero. Bring her a pillow so she’s comfortable during feedings. Make sure she has a glass of water and a healthy snack nearby.
Be Helpful
You can hold the baby after a feeding until she falls sound asleep, change diapers, learn how to calm the baby when she cries, take care of meals and household chores, and give mom a break so she can shower or nap. She will be grateful, and you’ll get more time with the baby!
Call Additional Help
If you can’t be there for mom, turn to family and friends who have offered to help.
No Smoking Allowed
Babies who are exposed to smoke face a lot of short-term and long-term health problems. Don’t let anyone smoke near your baby, and don’t take the baby anywhere smoking is allowed.
BACK TO WORK
Your partner needs your support so she can keep breastfeeding even if she plans to return to school or work.
- Encourage her to pump and store her breastmilk once she’s gotten the hang of breastfeeding and her supply is set. She should start pumping at least two weeks before going back to work.
- At first she may not get a lot of milk, but pumping once a day will help build a supply of milk in your freezer to use while she is away. When she and baby are together, regular breastfeeding will keep her milk supply up and keep mom comfortable, too.
BREASTFEEDING IN PUBLIC IS PROTECTED BY LAW.
Georgia law states that mothers can breastfeed in any public or private area they are legally allowed to be. Mom will feel more comfortable if you are OK with her breastfeeding in public. There are plenty of ways she can nurse with privacy even when other people are around.
DOES MOM SEEM DEPRESSED?
Plenty of women experience depression and anxiety during and after pregnancy. It is not a sign of weakness or being a bad mother. It is a medical condition that can cause her to stop breastfeeding, and it can have long-term health effects. Here is some useful information from the National Institutes of Health on how to identify the signs of depression and what you can do to help.
As her partner, you may be the first to spot signs of depression, such as:
- Frequent sadness, irritability, or anger.
- Foggy thinking or difficulty completing tasks.
- “Robotic” actions, like she’s going through the motions.
- Anxiety around the baby.
- Saying that she’s a failure as a mother.
- Lack of interest in activities she usually enjoys.
Listen to Her
- Ask how she is feeling physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
- Be kind and understanding about her concerns.
- Have an open ear without offering advice.
- Let her know that perinatal depression is a common medical condition and can be treated. It is not a sign that she is weak or a bad mother.
- Encourage her and help her to seek help quickly.
Support Her
- Watch the baby to give mom time to herself.
- Arrange to take care of meals, household chores, and shopping so she can get some rest.
- Give her time away from home to do activities with friends.
Let Her Know Where to Get Help
- Encourage her to contact her health-care provider or the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration Treatment Locator at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) to find a health-care provider in her area.
- She can also contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for free and confidential emotional support—they talk about more than just suicide.
- Call 9-1-1 if she is feeling like she may hurt herself or her baby or if she is having unusual or extreme mood swings or thoughts.
Download the flyer, “Talk About Depression and Anxiety During Pregnancy and After Birth: Ways You Can Help” (166KB) from NICHD for tips on how to talk about this and more resources on where to go for help.
